Hard Feelings
Published by GHC • Mar 1st, 2008 • Category: Horse Girls, by Rebecca Shyly
by Rebecca Shyly, age 12
Let’s face it. No matter what you do in the horse world, whether it’s showing, or maybe writing about horses, you might not always win. And when that happens it’s hard to let it go. You might wonder ‘am I good enough to do this?’ If that happens you can start to develop a grudge against the person who does better that you. Remind yourself that the competition was just for fun.
Sometimes it can be hard to convince yourself that it was a fair game. You wonder whether or not someone cheated. AVOID THESE THOUGHTS!!!! Unless you have proof (other than your own feelings) do not even go here. It will make you look like a sore loser. We all know that we can be better than that.
Another way to deal with defeat is to think of what that person did differently than you. Don’t change your style and become a mirror of them, but consider working a couple of things they did into your pattern. DO NOT COPY THEM!!! If the winner explained things more than you did in their story, consider making what you were trying to say more obvious. Or if her turns in the show ring were tighter and quicker than yours, work on turns so you can do better next time. If you feel brave you might even ask the winner for some tips!
The hardest thing to admit is that the winner deserved to win. If it was a competition judged by opinion (like our Jr. Blogger finals) just tell yourself that people aren’t ready for your vision—yet. If it was a competition judged by how well you fulfilled the requirements, just tell yourself that the winner might have practiced a little more. What you don’t want to do is put yourself down. Remember that we all have our own talents. Don’t dwell on losing. Look at the positive side of things.
You now know what to work on to be better prepared next time! Most of all remind yourself that at least you tried. Some people do not even have the courage to do that. Your dreams aren’t hopeless, you just need a little more practice.
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I love this blog. It’s very true!
This is totally true-I shouldn’t have acted like a sore looser earlier while running for JB, now I’m so happy for the winners. And you know how I can feel happy about it now? We still have horses by our side! :D
There’s not a false word or sentence in that blog. Though I’m not in the JB finals, this blog made me read, stop and then think. You have given excellent examples I can’t find more reason in and is easy to relate to. Great job Horsecrazzz, you have made a huge improvement in your writing!
I totally agree with this blog,nobody likes a sore loser andno one likes to be one.
Good job! ;)
wonderful blog! i’ve been telling u guys about my first comp on my big/new horse, if not I didn’t do the best, but it was a ODE so it had cross country, dressage and show jumping. i did really well in show jumping, in cross country my horse was mucking around and spooking at almost everything so we got lost of pentaly points coz he reufed one jump and we got lots of time pentlies but at leat i finished!then with dressage i did a VERY good job but I knew the judge so she was VERY harsh. but all up it was a fun day!
SB: Thank you for the kind comment.
Lauren: I’m glad you like this blog. You inspired me to write it actually by saying you weren’t upset any more. I thought that was nice of you and that inspired me to write this blog. Thanks for the kind words and inspiration.
Madelaina: That comment was really supportive and I truley thank you. I appreciate it. You are an amazing writer yourself and have inspired me to try harder with every blog I read by you.
tash: Thanks you and great job on your competition! At least you did your best right?
Thanks again everybody, you are all amazingly supportive!
Love and Good Luck Horseshoe Wishes,
Rebecca Shyly
Horsecrazzz